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Being a confident, optimistic and independent person, I often find myself struggling with this situation. I’m not sure everyone is in the same place as I’m but I am sure some of you might agree with me. Whenever I am in a situation in which I’m in need of someone’s help or when I come in contact with reserved people, I feel a little awkward asking them for help.
Being brought up in a middle-class family, I was taught to be self-sufficient and do things by myself. But when we go out into the world, we face all sorts of challenges/problems and to overcome them at times, we need to ask for help. Asking for help is not the issue, the issue is the response/reaction of the people. So, I learned a new way to deal with my situation. Although this is an age-old practice and we’ve been doing it for a long time now, we never really thought it through.
The method is simple.. before dealing with any difficult, uncomfortable or cringe-worthy situation, all you have to do is to give yourself a minute and tell yourself I’m going to do it on the count of 3 and just do it. It’s simple because we don’t allow our brain to think about the reactions but instead, we trick our brain into doing what we fear.
From schools, we’re taught about the concept of the deadline which makes us more attentive and aware of the situation. For example, in a running competition, the deadline is *on your marks 1, 2, 3 go…* after 3 you have to run. Or when we’re in the examination hall, we have 3 hours to complete our work. You know you won’t be allowed to write after 3 hours.
All these day-to-day situations explain to us that we are willing to do anything in a given time. We have trained ourselves this way. Since we are trained, it will be easy for us to implement this technique.
So, the next time you feel lazy getting up in morning, just say 1, 2, 3 go and just stand up. If you feel awkward to ask for help, just count to 3 and ask.
With time, you’ll get a hang of this habit and break free from your nutshells.