Part of being an adult means accepting the reality around you. For boys, it is quite common to misunderstand troubles a woman may go through while menstruating, or even something much worse. Even girls are not serious enough to know about their body systems, and would take it lightly.
Making fun of the opposite gender and sexualizing every body structure is now common among young adults, even young teens. Being an adult means that while you accept things in light humor, you also know where to draw a line.
Recently, a young Pakistani, overheard a group of three boys discussing breast cancer, however, in an utterly disgraceful, sexualized manner.
Here’s what the post says:
“Yesterday I got out of class and was walking to my car towards the gate when I passed a bunch of guys who seemed like they must be in the 7th or 8th semester. This was the conversation she overheard:
Guy 1: Oye wo kia kehrae thay?
Guy 2: Pata ni yara ‘Breast’ cancer ka kuch kerne aye thay. Ussi ka btaye jarae thay. *inmature dirty giggles*
Guy 3: *smirks* Ayeinnn! All of the guys: *Errupt in laughter*
I cringed all the way from university to home and I cringe as I type this. A society where basic human organs are sexualized to the point that even a cancer related to it is some locker room banter joke for these boys just like we talk of the one trump said.
Little do they realize that it kills more than 40,000 women every year in Pakistan alone and these are just only the cases that even luckily get reported.
Little do they know that Pakistan has the highest incidence of breast cancer in Asia. Little do they know that it is exactly this social setup because of which women are reluctant in medical checkups and sharing their issues, not even with their family members and ultimately lose their lives as the diagnosis only occurs at very late stages. God forbid some woman in their family suffers from this ever.
I have people constantly telling me that if you support a cause tou do something, beth ker baatein kerne se kuch nai hoga. To all of you, ‘do something’ se pehle beth ker awareness phelana aur samjhana zaruri hai. Cause when organizations do come to our institutions to take a step and ‘do something’, these are the illiterate idiots they get to deal with.
So rant as much as you can. Talk, scream and yell as long as you know you are heard somewhere by someone. Do whatever you can. Everything counts.
And to those 4 guys I crossed: Educate yourselves and those around you. Female bodies are not just objects. We are real humans with real diseases. I wish your porn addiction could have taught you otherwise.
For a long time women have been used as objects, and for satisfactory purposes. They are materialized, and are stripped of all their honor and dignity through the ways “dominant” men treat them. Western media is definitely of no use in aiding for any better future. Therefore, we must look among ourselves in order to seek guidance.
With Pakistan being the only country in Asia with the highest number of reported breast cancer patients, one after every eight women face this sickness somewhere during her lifetime. Around 40,000 female deaths occur each year, making this the worst type of cancer in this country.
But wait! What about those women who do not report to a hospital? As Fama Hasan said, they are reluctant for even discussing this with a doctor. Crushed by society and the phrase “log kya kahein ge?” these women need help. If men are so dominant as they say they are, then be notified that the true dominance lies in helping those in need, supporting people around you, and working towards a better society for a peaceful tomorrow.