A taboo considered to be bigger than the biggest of taboos, swinging is not taken lightly even in the Western world. When you see Hollywood films, you can see how only the high and mighty elite class attends such events. Top notch villas, high alert security, million dollar cars, dimmed lighting, and of course, masked couples, that’s what they show us. Swinger parties or wife/partner-swapping parties are non-monogamous events for couples and single people where they can commit to any kind of relationship and activity as a recreation or social behavior.
In simpler words, people there can engage in sexual activities with whoever they please under mutual consent and for as long as they stay within the party rules. These swinging parties can range from straight sex to homosexuality, from orgy and fetishes, and even to gang-bangs.
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A topic too unmentionable for the middle class and everyday couples, these parties are for people who are looking for kinkier activities and have an “open” mind. According to an article on Vice, there is a guy named Chunni Babu, who now lives in Melbourne, Australia as a real estate tycoon, used to run invite-only swinging parties in Pakistan in the 1980s. That was the era of General Zia ul Haq’s dictatorship and enforcement of Islamization, so how did he get away with such forbidden and elitist parties in the midst of all that?
Here is his brief interview to VICE:
About The Political Mood During That Time He Said:
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“It was heavy. The country really derailed under the military dictatorship of Zia ul-Haq. He enforced his ideas like a tyrant and reversed all the progressive socialist ideals of the previous government. I worked as a property developer. My family started converting the old traditional markets into modern shopping centers and leasing them out. But, socially, my wife and I spent a lot of time indoors. It was our own remote Pakistan, away from the humdrum outside.”
About How Parties Started, He Said:
“Well, our social circles were quite small. We were always around the same people most weekends, so we got to know each other very well. One night, we had two couples visiting us and they propositioned us. We were all quite high, listening to Rafi’s ballads, and we thought why not?”
About How Did One Time Experience Turned To Several, He Said:
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“Well, I put my hand up to host another party because I was somewhat of a virgin to the swinger scene. I was curious but I had trustworthy contacts that would provide musicians and dancers. We began a mailing list and we sent out some beautiful gold-trimmed invitations handwritten by a Peshawari artist who specialized in Arabic calligraphy. The first few were small and just our [friends] but, like everything in Pakistan, word got out, the bureaucracy took over, and upper echelon guests would invite whomever they pleased. My poor guards suffered several beatings from brutes and politicians who couldn’t be turned away.”
According to Him, This Happens In The Arab World As Well:
“Yes, apparently they called it “the night of Ifada,” where the candles would be blown out and fate would allow you to indulge in whatever act happened with those around you.”
So, How Did He Get Away With All This?
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“The police were paid off, of course. And the dictatorship made it all the more exciting. Everyone wanted a taste of freedom and I am of the opinion that whenever you enforce an ideology that’s too hard, the people will rebel—it’s just in our nature. So rebelling is what we did, in the crudest way possible.”
About The Size of The Parties, He Said:
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“Our last party had over 50 guests. This was in the mid-80s and I had the house decked out in a Mughal-style theme. It was a warm night but I was feeling frantic, patrolling the house to make sure everything was going well because there were people I didn’t really know. They’d arrived with friends from very high places, sons of politicians and rich gangsters connected to mafia syndicates. In Pakistan, these two types of people are sometimes the same.
As I went into the guest quarters, one of the servants was sweating and panicking, saying he had seen something he shouldn’t have. He was scared. My initial reaction was, Okay, he must’ve seen two men having sex. But I was wrong. Apparently, one of the goons had given two of our dancer’s heroin, and one of them was convulsing. The culprit had left, shouting at one of the servants to clean up the mess. I sobered up, sharp, like walking into a strange nightmare. I could hear the ghazals being sung downstairs, and an English couple romping in the kitchen area. It was bizarre and frightening.”
About Jeopardizing His Faith As A Muslim, Whether It Does or Does Not, He said:
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“Maybe it does, but usually, the people who will tell you that are so are hung up in their own insecurities. Religion to me is a personal thing, a direct relationship with Allah. I believe in right and wrong. I’ve never harmed anyone in my life, and I believe if I’m ever judged that the good will outweigh the bad. We had a great time and allowed people to explore their relationships and themselves more than they ever thought possible. It was like a taste of heaven and hell in a world that didn’t seem to have a place for us.”
Chunni Babu also mentioned that he had organized these parties for about five years and stopped by the time his guests started arranging similar events on their own. Eventually, these parties went international, towards London and India. He also admitted that he still receives invites of such parties and that he misses the old times because of the situation of Pakistan at that time and the thrill and excitement which was present due to such parties.
You can find the complete interview here
