It is rare to find Sunni and Shia getting married in Pakistan. It is even rare to see them going strong and happy despite all the criticism that occasionally gets hurled at them. However, this particular couple does it gracefully and we want to know how!
“Yes I’m Sunni, He is Shia and Our Son is a Sushi I Want to Eat Everyday” says the unapologetic blogger in a post of her Instagram account. She reflects on some serious questions of her life, concerning her and her husband’s sects, their marital journey, and societal interruptions. She sidesteps all of them with a logical retort that makes the wonderer sit down to see the common sense in it.
“So many people have sent me a message, and asked me where my husband is from. No he is not Japanese or Korean or Chinese. He belongs from the Hazara Shia community in Pakistan (extreme minority and brutally targeted by radicals)”
How were the parents persuaded?
“Was it difficult to convince our parents to get married? Not at all. We both loved each other, and with time found that we wanted to spend our lives together, so this was never concerning for either of our parents. They knew we were happy with each other.“
Similarities and diffierences
“You know what we had in common; language, culture, food, ethics, morals, interests, passion, aims and goals. So what we prayed differently? Didn’t we both believe in Allah?”
Are you religious enough to ask this?
“And why do we become the most religious of people when it comes to the Shia Sunni topic? I know people who said “but my family members’ relatives marriage ended because the partner was Shia…” so have marriages not failed when they are even in the same sect? And btw these are the same people who will practically do nothing about Islam, but will be quick to pass judgments.”
Looking in the mirror first
“So, are we the best of muslims when it comes to practicing other aspects of islam anyway? I don’t think so. Then how are we so quick to denormalize the idea of Shia sunni marriage, while we sip our 5 dollar cup of coffee and wonder the last time we performed our daily prayer? “
The common logic
“Someone rather is in an unhealthy, unhappy, and abusive relationship with the same sect, than marry someone from the opposite sect who they dearly love. If this is what the society has come down to, then I’m not sure where we are headed. I hope we can move past these things, and become good human beings first. The world will be a much better place.”
We have seen many power-couples lately who are giving viewers some serious goals. And some that broke stereotypes, not caring about the world.
This power-couple, however, is an inspiration to many in Pakistan. We don’t know the religious angle to Shias getting married to Sunnis but we surely know that sects only came in after the demise of our beloved Prophet (S.A.W.W). Isn’t this enough a reason to understand that sects inherently have no authentic grounds? If anything, they have only caused more disparity.
Be like this couple!
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