It is rare to find Sunni and Shia getting married in Pakistan. It is even rare to see them going strong and happy despite all the criticism that occasionally gets hurled at them. However, this particular couple does it gracefully and we want to know how!
“Yes I’m Sunni, He is Shia and Our Son is a Sushi I Want to Eat Everyday” says the unapologetic blogger in a post of her Instagram account. She reflects on some serious questions of her life, concerning her and her husband’s sects, their marital journey, and societal interruptions. She sidesteps all of them with a logical retort that makes the wonderer sit down to see the common sense in it.
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I dragged my husband, and we finally decided to talk about how we met and how we got married. . I have been overwhelmed by many of you sharing your stories in regards with different sect marriages, and I am sending lots of love and wishes to you. Its really not hard as people think it is. Lets normalize this, we all are Muslims 🙂 . I would love to know if you guys have any follow up questions or want to know more about our journey. . Love you all!♥️?
“So many people have sent me a message, and asked me where my husband is from. No he is not Japanese or Korean or Chinese. He belongs from the Hazara Shia community in Pakistan (extreme minority and brutally targeted by radicals)”
How were the parents persuaded?
“Was it difficult to convince our parents to get married? Not at all. We both loved each other, and with time found that we wanted to spend our lives together, so this was never concerning for either of our parents. They knew we were happy with each other.“
Similarities and diffierences
“You know what we had in common; language, culture, food, ethics, morals, interests, passion, aims and goals. So what we prayed differently? Didn’t we both believe in Allah?”
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I cannot believe Kumayl is growing up so quick (MA). It is insane to think that last year I was pregnant in Hawaii with no care in the world. It is unbelievable how my life changed with the birth and moving countries. In the midst of all this, I learnt so much about myself. Being a mom has tested my patience on so many levels, but opened me up to endless love and sacrifice for my baby. Sometimes I cannot even believe or remember how life was before having a baby. I feel like a whole new person. Do all moms feel this way or is it just me? . . . #moms #mom #motherhood #karachi #uae #babies #babiesofinstagram #anthropologie #hnmkids #mother #baby #babyboy
Are you religious enough to ask this?
“And why do we become the most religious of people when it comes to the Shia Sunni topic? I know people who said “but my family members’ relatives marriage ended because the partner was Shia…” so have marriages not failed when they are even in the same sect? And btw these are the same people who will practically do nothing about Islam, but will be quick to pass judgments.”
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Many people have reached out to me and asked me why I moved from Hawaii to Abu Dhabi. To be honest, it was the most difficult decision we as a family had to make. We simply loved Hawaii. It was everything that we ever dreamed of, and we are so blessed AH that we got the opportunity to live there for almost 3 years. But when Kumayl was born, things changed. I realized the importance of being close to family. I realized it takes a village to raise a kid. Most importantly we wanted Kumayl to grow near his grandparents (who btw both live in Pakistan). We no longer wanted to fly 35 hours to see our family. We no longer wanted to miss birthdays, anniversaries, eid, celebrations, holidays and so on. We no longer wanted our family to miss Kumayls milestones. What truly convinced us was an unfortunate event that happened soon after Kumayl was born. My father in law fell very sick and was admitted in the ICU. My husband had to drop everything and fly immediately, and it took him 2 whole days to get to Pakistan. It was an extremely stressful situation, which truly got us thinking it was time to be close to family. UAE seemed like the closest place to Pakistan where we could envision ourselves moving to. My husband started applying, and with Allahs blessing he ended up with an excellent job in Abu Dhabi. It was a long process but here we are 🙂 How many of you are away from family and wish to be somewhat closer someday?
Looking in the mirror first
“So, are we the best of muslims when it comes to practicing other aspects of islam anyway? I don’t think so. Then how are we so quick to denormalize the idea of Shia sunni marriage, while we sip our 5 dollar cup of coffee and wonder the last time we performed our daily prayer? “
The common logic
“Someone rather is in an unhealthy, unhappy, and abusive relationship with the same sect, than marry someone from the opposite sect who they dearly love. If this is what the society has come down to, then I’m not sure where we are headed. I hope we can move past these things, and become good human beings first. The world will be a much better place.”
This power-couple, however, is an inspiration to many in Pakistan. We don’t know the religious angle to Shias getting married to Sunnis but we surely know that sects only came in after the demise of our beloved Prophet (S.A.W.W). Isn’t this enough a reason to understand that sects inherently have no authentic grounds? If anything, they have only caused more disparity.
Be like this couple!
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