Society is a concept that was devised to decrease the struggle and suffering of an individual. It was formed so people could share and support each other when others would be down. However, modern day society is a different ball game altogether. It has turned into a class struggle that wants to show others down. Here’s how society reacts when daughters come into this world.
It is a universal truth that a lot of things people do might not be in their own best interest but is in the best interest of society. Getting appreciation from the people around you for something you did or happened to you releases the dopamine inside the brain, which obviously makes us feel good. Feeling good is not the case when the society we created reacts to our newborn girls or to families who only have daughters.
Gender gap is one of the most discussed topics among the Millennials of today. It claims that men have a sufficient lead over women in all forms of life and there isn’t enough equality. Coming back to the topic, same is the case when couples have daughters as their first children. Society starts looking down on the parents and disheartens them before or after their child’s birth.
“Agar beta hota toh kitna acha hota?” – “Pehla bacha larka hi hona chahiye, larkiyan hon bhi toh baad mein hi hon!” – “Tumhare yahan beti hui hai? Chalo, Allah tumhe jaldi beta dede!” – “Betiyan bhi neymat hoti hain lekin ghar mein bete hona zaroori hai!” – “Allah se dua kerte raho, agla bacha inshAllah beta hoga!” – “Oho, tumhare yahan beti hui hai? Allah kere jaldi beta bhi hojae!”
It’s funny how these comments do not come up when the first born is a boy and not a girl. Imagine somebody saying, “Uff tumhare yahan beta hua hai? Chalo, Allah se beti ki dua maango!” This is the discrimination and difference that society has showcased over newborn girls and families that only have daughters. In our society, having an heir is essential. The patriarchal dominance in the sub-continent, especially, will never let women get the same acceptance, appreciation or consideration that men do.
Here’s to hoping that the nature of society changes and starts accepting the works of God for what they are. No parent or couple gets to decide who they want to bring into this world, there is no menu or ordering, these are the works of Allah Almighty and we need to accept and appreciate them.