“Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un [Truly! To Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return].” (2:156)
Funerals are devastating but also a remainder of how God calls us back to Him when our time on the earth is finished. He says that this world is temporary and that we will be judged for our actions spent on the earth. As a person dies, their good and bad deeds start being counted. While the real trials is their, the people close to the person who passed away face the troubles of their own.
For those present at the funeral, here are some things that fully need to be avoided, for they are not pleasing in the eyes of Allah and the Prophet Muhammad (SAWW):
The Prophet (SAWW) forbade screaming and wailing. He called this practices as disbelief – kufr as they do not please Allah.
Abu Hurayrah narrated that the Prophet said, “There are two practices found among people, both of which indicate disbelief: ridiculing the ancestry (of others) and wailing over the dead.” [Muslim, vol. 1, p. 44, #128]
“Verily the dead are punished in their graves by the wailing of their family over them.” [Al-Bukhari, vol. 2, p. 213, #379; Muslim, vol. 2, p. 439, #2015]
The Prophet said, “The deceased who is wailed over is tortured for that wailing.” [Al-Bukhari 2.378, Narrated Al-Mughirah]
The Prophet said, “He who slaps the cheeks, tears the clothes and follows the tradition of the Days of Ignorance is not from us.” [Al-Bukhari 2/385, narrated ‘Abdullah]
In the agony of pain, someone who has lost their loved one rip their clothes apart and are unaware of how it effects.
Ibn Mas’ud reported that the Prophet said, “Whoever slaps his face, tears his clothes, or invites (others) to an un-Islamic slogan is not of us.” [Collected by Al-Bukhari, Muslim, Ibn Majah and Al-Bayhaqi; Al-Bukhari, vol. 2, p. 216, #385; Sahih Muslim, vol. 1, p. 59, #184]
These are the common mistakes Muslims make usually during a funeral. It is essential to avoid doing them or control those who are do them during the mourning period.
May Allah guide us all to the right path, Ameen.