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Relationships can be complicated and when family members are involved, it becomes even more complex. When planning to pop the question, most men will approach their partner’s parents to ask them for their daughter’s hand in marriage. But what would happen if the parents refuse? Is it still advisable to go on with the wedding without the parent’s blessing?
Don’t blow it off
You may approach your parents to bless your union before you choose to walk down the aisle. Sometimes your parents may not think that your partner is the best person for you. It’s important to try and understand where your parents are coming from. It’s really important to get your parents blessings but not absolute.
Give whatever they say a lot of time to just think it through. You can also involve other people in trying to help you understand where your parents are coming from.Walking down the aisle without your parents approving of it can be one of the toughest things to do.
Talk to your parents
Parents may refuse to bless a marriage because of many reasons. For a start, it could be that the parents do not approve of your partner’s character. Other times, parents think that the timing for the marriage is wrong. Sometimes parents miss it or misread someone. It could be that your parents don’t even know what that person is like.
One thing you can do is to try and give your parents an opportunity to get to know your spouse better. Whether this means going for dinner at your parent’s home or attending family functions, it is important for the partner to spend time with their in-laws before walking down the aisle.
Opening a new chapter
Marriage brings together two families. You need to remind your parents that they will be part of a greater family and begin a new chapter in their lives. Marriages can be rocky and having parents who are not supportive can put more strain on the relationship. Consider discussing issues with your parents and coming to a resolution.
If you are not able to keep your parents on the same page, you may want to consider professional help. A therapist can help you to uncover issues that you hadn’t thought of before. Invite your parents too so that they can see things from a completely different perspective. It is important to have a marriage when everyone you love is on your side.