What Islam Says About Asking People When They're Going To Have A Baby

Here’s What Islam Says About Asking People When They’re Going To Have A Baby

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Last week, I visited my aunt. Allah has blessed her with everything one can ever dream about. A well-furnished house, health, beauty, kind-hearted husband, good state of Eeman but there’s one thing that’s missing “a baby”. If we look around, there are many couples who bear no children. Whenever there’s a gathering everyone questions them “why you have no child yet?” Everyone comes up with a list of “tootkaas” and addresses of “Bengali baba.

Hazrat Muhammad (SAAW) said: “Part of the perfection of someone’s Islam is his leaving alone that which does not concern him.” (Hadith by Tirmidhi).

Our society forces such couples to remain silent and wore a costume of helplessness and “bechargii” every time. Even people feel no shame to curse the woman (Astagfar)!

Well, I believe having a child is a blessing and Quran also has a dua”

Our Lord! Grant us in our wives and offspring the coolness of eyes and make us a leader of those who guards themselves against evil. Surat al Furqan – Verse 74

We must realize that health is a blessing. If anyone is not ashamed for not having a kind heart, health and few other things then why a couple should look down for this? Respected men should know, Holy prophet once said:

“You will see nothing like marriage for increasing the love of two people” (reported by Ibn.e.Abbas)

Please don’t spoil your relationship under society’s pressure. Hazrat Ayesha(R.A) was the beloved wife of  Holy Prophet (PBUH) bearing no child. Allah makes you the protector of your wife so protect her “happiness”.

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Please don’t spoil your relationship under society’s pressure. Hazrat Ayesha(R.A) was the beloved wife of  Holy Prophet (PBUH) bearing no child. Allah makes you the protector of your wife so protect her “happiness”.

It is painful to see some ignorant people start making comments like, “Home is not home without children” and making prayers in front of a married childless woman like “Ab Allah bacha dede, “

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Please stop this act of hypocrisy! If you really care you should pray for them in silence instead of offending them in front of a crowd. Indeed prayers can change one’s fate. You have no idea how your so-called suggestions, comments or puns or whatever you call them, can break their heart. Breaking hearts and accusing someone of things which are are not in a person’s control, is a sin. If Allah wills, He can bless one in old age as He blessed Hazrat Zakariya (A.S) but if it’s not written for them, DON’T make their lives miserable.

If we look in our Islamic history, there are four women who are Leaders in Jannah. Hazrat Asia (R.A), Hazrat Mariam (A.S), Hazrat Fatima (R.A), Hazrat Khadija (R.A). Hazrat Asia was not blessed with a child like Hazrat Ayesha (R.A) but still spend a wonderful life. Allah gave them best rank among other women. We never find any word of sympathy for them.

Listen, girls! Hazrat Asia and Hazrat Ayesha (R.A) led a very a confident life. Peace and happiness come from Eeman. Work to strengthen it. Allah has blessed you with extra health and more free time. There are so many issues need to be solved with your health, time and wealth.

You can voluntarily join a government school as per your free time to raise education standards or any welfare organization. Tell yourself “I’m doing it not because I HAVE NO CHILD, it’s just because my health and time is worthy.” If someone wants to demoralize you then you can use the reference of Hazrat Ayesha and Hazrat Asia because “Silence is not a solution to end such conflicts.”

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