Relationships, proposals, marriage, coming together of two people, it’s nature’s way of carrying on the form of life. In Pakistan, marriage is considered sacred. A bond that two people will share for life, through thick and thin, better or for worse. However, who decides on making this bond and who decides that who is to get rejected? Is it backed by the claim that ‘Joriyan Asmano Per Banti Hain’ or is it actually in the hands of humans?
There are two forms of marriage in Pakistan, the bond is either arranged or it comes on the back of a relationship blossomed with love. The only thing that hurts as much as a bad marriage is the gutting feeling that comes after a marriage rejection. We know all about how women are said not to for different reasons in Pakistan but have you ever wondered how men get rejected?
Source: paosin.com
Thus, this guy @kahayfaqeer brings you men sharing their experience and knowledge of how rejections are faced by everyone. You will be shocked and surprised to know why these beautiful guys were deprived of who they wanted to be with…
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Source: Twitter/@kahayfaqeer
Men share their experiences of how they were rejected for different reasons
Ladies discussing why they were rejected for rishtas. I’m pretty sure men would have similar stories too. Someone make a thread on it.
— peer (@kahayfaqeer) February 28, 2017
Well. I was wasn’t rejected on the basis of my looks. I was rejected on being a Shia, being a Syed, not being rich and this is the best one*
— peer (@kahayfaqeer) February 28, 2017
And because there’s no woman at my house. ‘Humari baiti wahan mardon may akaili rhay gee’ ????
— peer (@kahayfaqeer) February 28, 2017
I was rejected bcoz not being a rich ???????? https://t.co/L0hXSO9Nnp
— ???? Saeen❗❗ (@H3llo_Darkness) February 28, 2017
“Salary achi nahi!” https://t.co/qRnum4rHfr
— Talha W (@Tazzz_21) February 28, 2017
@kahayfaqeer Know men who get rejected for having low salaries, short heights, who plan to live with their parents long term etc.
— khattak (@shehrozekhattak) February 28, 2017
@kahayfaqeer my brother was rejected for being an Army Officer
“Jung wung main margaya to jawani main bewah hogai to?”— ☀ (@cheetayyy) February 28, 2017
I was wasn’t rejected on the basis of my passport also that, I am paki and He was a europian passport holder & at the end she give up on me???? https://t.co/L0hXSO9Nnp
— ???? Saeen❗❗ (@H3llo_Darkness) February 28, 2017
@kahayfaqeer Also know men getting rejected because they don’t plan to settle abroad. Awful mentality.
— khattak (@shehrozekhattak) February 28, 2017
Friend rejected because his brother is more handsome https://t.co/Cnzn4fu7Ma
— – (@HFooty) February 28, 2017
@shehrozekhattak @kahayfaqeer seen men get rejected because they refuse to leave their parents alone
— – (@HFooty) February 28, 2017
@kahayfaqeer The top of the crop was a family that had a problem with the fact that I supported my mother(a widow) financially.
— ¯_(ツ)_/¯ (@Mzr7_) February 28, 2017
Rejected because I was not a pathan 🙂
???? https://t.co/NdQXGAWxMm— Hamza (@Hamza3_9) February 28, 2017
a girl rejected my friend’s brother because “omg oski shakal itni piyaari nai” ???? https://t.co/m5lOnTUdkN
— Mehrunisa Khan (@mehrunisakhn) February 28, 2017
My bro was rejected despite being good looking,financially set because he damaged his hand in an incident.
Not that it makes one bit of… https://t.co/iYbVyzx9oY— Mir Afzal (@not_my_name) February 28, 2017
@shehrozekhattak @AbeerSalman93 @SohaTazz @kahayfaqeer I know a guy who was rejected by the girl’s family because he didn’t speak Sindhi.
— Team Parhlo (@TeamParhlo) February 28, 2017
My friend got rejected because he was too fair and one of girl’s phupho said hamari larki kaali lagay gi. ! Looks https://t.co/yQ93wjvKP8
— UD (@Keyb0ardMujahid) February 28, 2017
@kahayfaqeer My brother got rejected because he didn’t have a fair skin tone to match the girl’s.
— Salman Saeed (@SalmanSaeed539) February 28, 2017
Last year i was rejected because i wear stones and they said “Hum pathron pe aur darbaar pe hazari lagane walon pe yaqeen nahi rakhte.” https://t.co/Fk9GPQM81y
— Sir Saith Abdullah (@SaithAbdullah99) February 28, 2017
I vz rejected for being a Shia/communist/activist ! They said “ye tou ziada dair chalay ga hi nahin” https://t.co/gifmTesgmu
— Atif Ali (@Mayaro10) February 28, 2017
Saw my own family rejecting reasonable guys for their girls cuz *they’re non-kashmiris* https://t.co/vF3lmiGEJA
— Rainbow (@iG_Butt) February 28, 2017
@kahayfaqeer
1. I was rejected for being jobless.
2. For my looks
3. If i can support the girl’s education before marriage (condition)— MRS (@rizwanizm) February 28, 2017
@kahayfaqeer
Rejected
4. For working away from home
And my favrt ????
5. Not being talkative and not dancing in cousin’s marriage.What a ????
— MRS (@rizwanizm) February 28, 2017
A friend got rejected because someone told the girl’s family k larka nasha karta hai. He doesn’t even smokes. https://t.co/Q5nIZ1tLkc
— حیدر (@EssEmmKayy) February 28, 2017
@kahayfaqeer my brother got rejected because he lives abroad, ab bachi akeli kese rhe gi? Bore hojayegi
— Aneeka. (@nixsidust) February 28, 2017
@kahayfaqeer i have friend he got rejected because “larka CA kr rha hai pta nhi clear hota bhi hai k nhi.. kb tk larki kunwari bethi rhe gi”
— Ateeb Qayyum (@AteebQayyum) February 28, 2017
Girl’s family rejected my uncle because at that time he was struggling, hadn’t got enough money, now he’s a millionaire and drives Audi R8. https://t.co/eEmthVVN37
— Juni (@LiveLikeJuni) February 28, 2017
My friend @Mesuturbation got rejected because he was seen driving a Mehran by his gf. This is the world we live in. https://t.co/dCENwexL4B
— khattak (@shehrozekhattak) February 28, 2017
a guy i know, double MBA, was rejected because he was only two inches taller than the girl. https://t.co/bEaj55g8wH
— محمد حسن علی (@MHasanAlii) February 28, 2017
@kahayfaqeer I was rejected for slightly darker skin tone while the girl wasn’t fair either
— Raheel (@009barca) February 28, 2017
Larki walon ka istikhara theek nahi hota aksar, usko wo explain nahi kartay ke istikharay mein kon sa aaloo bukhara dekha tha. https://t.co/Hr5GqayKLf
— Owais (@SansCulottic) February 28, 2017
My bhai got rejected coz “larka hmari larki se 2 saal chota hy bilkul baby lgta hy
Phupho ki larki thi ????” https://t.co/76g3Jo0l5b— Heer (@berriebella) February 28, 2017
1 cousin was rejected because he was too tall for girl. Another one got rejected because he has too many sisters ???????? https://t.co/zQYldgWxf1
— Saarim Abidi (@SaarimMehdi) February 28, 2017
@kahayfaqeer I’ll share mine i was rejected based on my looks, girl’s mother called n said “Beta bas tumhari shakal” Wajbi” si hai” ????
— Ali (@J_sy_Jutt) February 28, 2017
Rejected/humiliated
Not Engr/Dr
Grandma living with us
can’t purchase 5K suit for larkiBlessed with a beautiful wife later & 6 fig salary https://t.co/6IUnAJVxPL
— Mahd (@mahd_) February 28, 2017
@kahayfaqeer @hollyfreaknshit bro I got rejected because I had vitz instead of a corolla and apparently that meant I was cheap
— Anas Saleem (@dakraziest) February 28, 2017
An acquiannce rejected her bf of 5 years bcoz, in her own words,he didnt ve v.good job n she didnt see him ever matching her social status https://t.co/hziKiGPkWS
— Dil-e-Wehshi (@Dil_e_Wehshi) February 28, 2017
It’s harsh but let me say it, I was rejected due my ethnic background by her family https://t.co/WFMTdx9zV4
— محترم (@Insafiantweets) February 28, 2017
Exactly like we always talk about dowry but don’t talk about what is done to a guy in the name of haq mehar. https://t.co/6iLJjUFEKn
— Spogmai Rehman ???????? (@Spogmai_SR) February 28, 2017
All these are real people who shared real time experiences of what they or somebody they know went through, because hey, nobody’s perfect, right? Ours is a society that fails to accept the taboos we live in, and when the issue is voiced, we say that it doesn’t exist.
Yes, we might be living in a patriarchal society but have you ever looked at the parallel paradigm of this system? How men are undermined for not being ‘ABSOLUTELY PERFECT’ in every way and how they are rejected due to reasons that seldom matter in the long run! How do you plan on finding a rich, handsome, educated and a million other attributed guy at the tender age of 25, when he is just starting his life?
We will stay here, breaking different taboos of our society. For now, all we can say is that every coin has two sides.
