“Kuch sharam hoti kuch haya hoti hai poore khandaan me hamari naak katwaoge? Hum tumhari Phopho ko zabaan de chuke hain“, my father was almost screaming and the mother was wiping her tears with dupatta. “Allah jane kaisa khandan hai kaise log hain hum aise kaise rishta jor len?” But I stood still as a pillar, wait for a while and then began to speak.
And after just 2 minutes talk, they both were agreed happily and came along with the point that “Allah tum jaisi samajhdar aulad sbko de” which made me proud. Look over the main points of my little talk with my parents which convinced them to let me have a love marriage.
It Is According To Hadees SAWW
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (May Allah exalt his mention and protect him from imperfection) said: “A woman is married for four things: for her wealth, for her lineage, for her beauty or for her piety. Select the pious, may you be blessed!”. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim) Ref. Riyaadiss-Saliheen (The Meadows of the Righteous)
By Imam An Nawawi
Chapiter 45, Page 121, No 364
She has all four things!
I Have Chosen The Best For Me
I inherited the habit of choosing the best from you. From my childhood, you developed that in me. And now, when it has come to the most important decision of my life, you expect that I should accept your choice. How can that be possible?
Admire The Beauty
Allah has created the whole world very magnificently. The beauty in nature mesmerizes us and leaves us in shock with SubhanAllah on our lips. He has made his mankind, ashraf ul makhlooqat, beautiful too. We should adore them. If I wish to attain the beauty, what’s wrong with it?
Once, a companion told the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) that he was going to get married. The Prophet asked if he had seen her. When the man said no, he said:
“Go and look at her for it is more likely to engender love between the two of you.” [Ahmad]
It means if I have seen or observed her keenly with positive intentions, it is not wrong anymore.
Appreciate The Positive Features
I know her from the last four years. She has never ever spent a single extra penny. All the university fellows called her “kanjoos” but she never minded it. I really appreciate how she saved money instead of being the spendthrift daughter of a rich family. Not only that, she didn’t even show her anger over the remarks students made about her dressing.
I Will Make The Compromises Happily
Life is not a monotonous thing- we all see ups and downs in the life. She is very steadfast and bold as I have seen her level of patience. It has made me relaxed and comfortable because I believe that she is able to face any type of situation and gives me inspiration for dealing with hardship.
No Blame Game
It has been observed that people blame society for forcing them to do something they don’t want to. If I will go for my own choice, I will never blame the society over it. My life would be content and full of happiness.
In our society, love marriages are not acceptable. Parents never forgive their children throughout their lifetime and neither does the rest of the family. The apple of discord is our double-standard lifestyle. On one side, we all pretend to be perfect followers of Islam but when it comes to actually following it, we support the false customs of our society. We should realize that love marriage is not a thing contrary to Islam. The society should propagate the true preaching of Islam instead of that made up by itself.