They want money but not more than what their son earns. They want that gorra rang and they want the required zaat. They want her educated, but not too educated. They want the perfect roti-maker, but not as their “servant”. They want her perfect figure, something in the middle of not so thin and not so fat. And obviously, they want the age that makes her look young and perfect for their son.
Ah! The typical scenario of marriages especially when it comes to arranged marriages in our society. If not a bidding competition, it is not any lesser than a selection for the perfect ‘toy’ which will be operated by the ‘owners’ only. I am not even exaggerating how many families ‘choose’ their future bahus these days.
Remember how Islam and Quran instructed us to look deeply into the nature of the person you choose to marry? None of the matters anymore.
Meet Aesha Abubakr – She Might Be 5’4, But She’s Definitely Above All This Bullshit!
Recently, a family ‘rejected’ Aesha because of her front teeth. Yep, you read it right…HER TEETH.
Ladies, quote this with whatever physical appearance you were rejected for by rishta people. I was rejected yesterday for bad front teeth.
— Sesh♡ (@Oh_My_Mascara) February 26, 2017
With this certain tweet, women started sharing their experiences on why and how they were turned down by families, based solely on their appearances and additional factors:
Body shape, fat nose and not perfect teeth. No regrets https://t.co/DBtvgAVKx6
— Sahrish (@shadesofsunrise) February 26, 2017
The Typical One
“thori ziada healthy hai. patli hoti tou aur bhi achi lagti” https://t.co/IvrErSKi1g
— from cloud 9 (@fabubah) February 26, 2017
Short height, weight, small eyes, covering of head, chicken pox spots and I rejected others before they could even point at anything of mine https://t.co/nAltAYj6vi
— عبیر نسیم (@abeerii12) February 26, 2017
So True. Especially the Mothers!
Unfortunately it’s always the Ghar walas that do the rejection not the guys themselves. Only one reason for me though. Overweight. https://t.co/G7BgdZ2t9r
— Huda (@enigmaniac1) February 26, 2017
Let’s see: short heighted, too chubby, has glasses, hijabi, doctor, age zyada hai.. https://t.co/poNAevgcGV
— ???? (@Rabyaaaa_) February 26, 2017
Just Reading This Sickens Me!
Medium height,Not goori chitti,Why interested in job/studying after marriage/Not a model like look.Also,Doctor banty banty age zada ho gae???? https://t.co/v54Bp7ihec
— Rabia (@ad_ra_na) February 26, 2017
Was rejected once ke larki engineer hai. Typical gharelo larki jaisi nahi hogi. Lol what? https://t.co/24yxmTCnQ0
— ماہ نم (@AdrenalineYo) February 26, 2017
I was actually accepted by an aunty for her 33 year old son, only because I was 20. YEAH THAT WAS THE ONLY REASON. 🙂 https://t.co/ufqhctysMk
— Wadairi (@tisfatima) February 26, 2017
Love This Approach!
No rishtas yet but I’ll probably get rejected because main jahaiz mein ik paayi bhi nahe le ke jaoungi ???????????????????????? https://t.co/mfAT8hFnV3
— کشف عاصم (@kashafasim) February 26, 2017
I was rejected last year for telling them that I love working in media and won’t quit. https://t.co/vOVM0GOUer
— Amina (@Aamenaah) February 26, 2017
Btw 80% of rishta walas didn’t even come over when they found out I was a working woman with no intentions of quitting. Yep https://t.co/0SH3MKpQxL
— Bissmah Mehmud (@bissmahmehmud) February 26, 2017
You go girls!
LOL @ Ziyada Parhi Likhi Na Hona
I was rejected because “hamaray Betay ko ziada parhi hoi nai chahye, wo kehta hai parh kr larkyan taiz ho jati hain” https://t.co/DHyQvWulUL
— Huda. (@IGotSherlocked) February 26, 2017
Because It Threatens Them
In non physical things, too educated, working women, reads too much, is only daughter so must be really laadli, too introverted, etc, etc. https://t.co/VMxn6PcBa5
— Faiza Yousuf (@FaizaYousuf) February 26, 2017
You know what everyone overlooks? The compatibility, the nature and the attitude of the girls. ‘Rejecting’ someone based on their looks won’t bring the type of comprehension that might be needed for your family and for the upcoming generations.