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The world is full of unexpected things. We never know what’s going to happen the next minute, yet our expectations are always very high. If we do something good to the world, we develop a misconception within us that the world also will return you well.
No, it doesn’t happen every time. Sometimes, the people nearest to you treat you the way you never dreamt of. No matter what, if this happens unintentionally, all you end up is disappointed and anguished. Even the forgiveness over their penitence becomes questionable.
There may be times when others inflict so much hurt on you or your family that you simply can’t find it in your heart to forgive them. What if these people hurt you on purpose? Your soul fills with a sadness that turns to anger. You may nurse a grudge or even spend time plotting ways to get even. You see the act of forgiveness as somehow letting the other person off the hook.
What can you do when any of your acquaintances crush your spirit in ways that make it difficult to find a way to forgive and forget? Remember, forgetting is not easy rather forgiveness removes bitterness from your heart.
There are many variations of and attributions to the quotation, “Not forgiving others is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the other person to die.” The point is we forgive others because of what it does for us, not what it does for them. Not forgiving others gives them the power to continue to wound us unnecessarily. Forgiveness does NOT mean we allow bad behavior. However, it is essential to our own well being.
It’s sometimes so much more natural to just hold grudges. What if you finally reach a place where you want to forgive, but you just don’t know how best to go about it? All you need to do is, acknowledge the base, experience how you feel and confess that you want to forgive you don’t want to carry the frustration and resentment anymore. If it doesn’t work after so many trials, let it go at last and forgive for the sake of Allah.
Forgiveness means we forgive both ourselves and others. When we do that, it makes much easier to make our way in the world. Forgiveness never means we make ourselves prey to the evil acts of others. It’s difficult in the beginning but it heals your heart at the end.