When it comes to the relationship parents share with their children and vice versa, the Quran has revealed how it needs to be. However, often we see that in our society that no one talks about the children must be treated by their parents, focusing much on the rights they have over their parents. While all of that holds immense importance in its own perspective, the relationship between children and their parents is something we need to talk about.
“And your Lord has decreed that you do not worship except Him, and to your parents, [show] good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age while with you, say not to them [so much as], ‘uff,‘ and do not repel them, and speak to them a noble word.” [17:23]
Here are Some Important Important Hadith from the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) on the relationship between Children and their Parents
The Blessing of Having Children
The Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “For every tree, there is a fruit and the fruit of the heart is the child.” [Kanzul Ummal]
The Requirement of Being Fair with Children
The Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Maintain justice among your children in gifts, just like you would like them to be just with you in goodness and affection.” [Kanzul Ummal]
The Status of a Man after he Becomes a Father
Ali ibn Hussain Al-Sajjad (peace be upon him) said: “It is part of the prosperity of a man that he has offspring who can be an aid to him.” [Usool Al-Kafi]
Being Responsible for Your Children
The Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The ruler is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his family and is responsible for his flock. A woman is the shepherd of her husband’s household and is responsible for her flock.” [Sahih Muslim]
A Place in the Heavens
The Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “A Muslim whose three children die before the age of puberty will be granted Paradise by Allah due to his mercy for them.” [Sahih Bokhari]
Blessing of a Pious Child
Jaffar ibn Mohammed Al-Sadiq (peace be upon him) said: “Allah’s inheritance to His pious servant is a righteous child who repents for him.” [Makarim Al-Akhlaaq]
Blessing of Having a Daughter
The Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “If anyone has a female child, and does not bury her alive, or slight her, or prefer his children (i.e. the male ones) to her, Allah will bring him into Paradise.” [Sunan Abu Dawood]
Showing Love to Children
Jaffar ibn Mohammed Al-Sadiq (peace be upon him) said: “Allah (swt) has mercy on a servant because of his strong love for his child.” [Usool Al-Kafi]
It is essential for us to understand how important it is to maintain a lovely bond which needs to flourish from both, parents and children. These hadiths prove the importance of how a strong relationship between them can lead to happiness between the family.
