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All set for university and starting the next chapter of my life, I can’t help but look back at all the things I wish I had done differently. So, to make sure no other young, dumb kid makes the same mistakes I and many other students made, here are 10 things I wish someone had told me when I took the huge jump to high school.
1. Study smart, not hard:
Chances are you don’t need to know the minutest of details to ace that exam you’ve been fretting over. So, be clever about it, the amount of time you’re going to spend ratta-fying the entire textbook, understand concepts, go over past papers, familiarise yourself with the paper pattern and practice!! Oh and also, don’t be a little snake and not share your notes or tell people you haven’t studied, when really you have the periodic table on your fingertips; good karma goes a long way.
2. Your grades aren’t the end of the world:
Tried your best and didn’t get the grades you wanted? (see: threshold bohat high tha yaaaar) Don’t sweat it. There are so many more things you can do to make up for it on your college application. Pick up a sport, try model UN. Find your passion and work to become the very best at it. So what I’m really trying to say is, don’t sweat it, but then SWEAT IT (so punny)
3. Stay out of drama:
The last thing you want is to make enemies, or even worse, fake friends. So be nice to everyone, keep in contact with people you like, distance yourself from people who you feel are toxic, are holding you back, or people you just don’t vibe with, you get me? Make wise choices because remember, friends are family that you get to CHOOSE, unlike your phuphi ki beti who tells her mom you bunk school and do sastey Nasha with your friends at the local dhaba.
4. Your group of friends will fall apart:
No matter how close and inseparable your group of friends and you are, eventually time and experience will and sift and sort through them and by the end you’ll be left with the ones who are genuine and actually care about you. So, don’t stick to one particular group, try to be friends with everyone, yes, even the shy girl who won’t speak unless spoken to, because she might be the one who’s there for you when your Sahelian replace with you with someone more popular.
5. Your teachers are your friends:
I know you have convinced yourself that your maths teacher is out to get you, but chances are that’s not the case. Always be respectful and try to gain as much possible from their expertise. If you REALLY do despise them with all your heart, suck it up, because you wouldn’t want to mess up your letters of recommendation, would you?
6. Don’t obsess over your looks:
You’re a teenager, your skin will break out, nobody cares and nobody will remember. If you don’t have a uniform in your school, don’t skip the first period because you couldn’t decide on an outfit. No one will remember how well dressed you always were at your graduation ceremony.
7. Spend time with your parents:
You only have 4-5 years left before you probably leave for university, so make the most of this time. I know it seems like a lot but when you’re in the rat race of school, tuitions, socializing and sleeping, don’t forget that they’re being neglected. Try to take out one day a week in which you don’t have any other commitments and spend it with them.
8. Go easy on the tuitions
If you’re really struggling, and you can afford it, by all means, go for the extra help but only AFTER you’ve tried time and again to understand it yourself, you’ve gone to your teachers after class and asked for help and have tried searching the internet for anything that might help you. At the end of the day, you’re going to have to self-study, regardless.
9. The guy you think is THE ONE, probably isn’t:
Chances are you will get your heart broken, maybe even more than once. (What? No? That totally wasn’t me crying in the back row of organic chem class) Don’t believe the first boy who tells you he loves you. Even the strongest of relationships collapse, don’t worry, its not the end of the world. You will get over it even if you feel like your world just split down the middle. Keep yourself busy, learn from your mistakes, heal and you will realize true happiness and contentment will never come from cute paragraphs about how perfect you are, but rather, from within.
10. Enjoy it:
This is the only time in your life when your only responsibility is to do well in school. You have a lifetime of worries ahead of you, be that financially, your susral, your kids etc, so enjoy this carefree time and don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with or would potentially regret in the future.
If you mess up, just remember there are only a few more years till you get to do this all over again in university. How fun 🙂